IFS THERAPY & COACHING

Whilst any coaching subject can be taken deeper, the root-cause often requires therapy. And any therapy subject is linked to a life not fulfilled, and that is where coaching comes in. Some examples of how this approach of coaching & therapy reinforce themselves:

  • Bringing to light and honouring your core-values in choices you make every day (coaching) has so much more impact once you also bring to light the value of the parts of you which you try to hide (therapy).

  • Healing the part of you which subconsciously believes that you don’t deserve reaching a specific goal (therapy) is a precondition to all the support you need to pursue that goal (coaching).

  • Managing your anxiety about challenges in your life (coaching) is more effective once you dealt with your deep-rooted fears e.g. fear of rejection (therapy).

  • Addressing any (traumatic) experiences that reduced your stress-tolerance (therapy) is the foundation of concrete action-plans to better deal with stress (coaching).

  • Identifying and focusing on more positive internal voices (coaching) becomes second nature once you validated and embraced the internal voices of you which hold self-limiting beliefs e.g. “I’m not good enough” (therapy).

  • Uncovering and facing the attachment injuries of your childhood (therapy) helps to increase the overall positivity in your current relationships (coaching).

  • Clarifying what you really do want from this life (coaching) becomes easy once you addressed the reason why you struggle to know what you do want (therapy).

  • Awareness of unhelpful patterns of thinking (coaching) needs no practice once unprocessed experiences have been healed which causes those patterns of thinking (therapy).

Some real-life examples:

  • Applying for your dream job is not challenging. Subconsciously believing that you’re not good enough to do this job is the real challenge.

  • Consulting experts to help you stop with a bad habit or “unhealthy” behaviour is easy. All efforts are however doomed to fail as long as that habit/behaviour helps you to not feel a pain which is worse than the consequences of the bad habit.

“You are not an anxious person. A part of you is anxious.”

“You are not a frustrated person who is stuck. A part of you feels frustrated because another part of you feels stuck.”

You don’t need healing. A part of you does.